Sapphic Advice & Support
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- Advice & SupportAria
friend keeps saying sapphic and lesbian are the same and correcting me
i say sapphic. she "corrects" me to lesbian every time like she's helping. i'm pan. lesbian doesn't fit. how do i shut it down once without a friendship explos…
Started 2 weeks ago4 replies555 viewsLast reply 2 weeks ago - Advice & SupportKendra
online late bloomer groups saved me but i need people in my actual city
facebook groups and forums got me through the "am i actually gay or just bored" spiral. genuinely. now i want someone to get coffee with who already knows the…
Started 3 weeks ago4 replies520 viewsLast reply 3 weeks ago - Advice & SupportWilla
she asked about moving in after 5 weeks and i short-circuited
we're great. like genuinely. also she casually floated "what if we just… shared a place" after five weeks and my brain blue-screened. i know the u-haul joke ex…
Started 1 month ago5 replies892 viewsLast reply 1 month ago - Advice & Supporttori_tries
first date with a woman ever and i'm spiraling about being "new"
never dated women before. have a coffee date saturday. keep imagining she'll clock me as clueless and lose interest. do i say upfront that i'm newly dating wom…
Started 1 month ago3 replies735 viewsLast reply 1 month ago - Advice & Supportolive.jpg
crush on a friend and i cannot tell if she's flirting or just like that
we've been friends for about 8 months. lately she's cooking for me, leaning into my space, announcing she's single in front of her friends like it's a public s…
Started 1 month ago5 replies980 viewsLast reply 1 month ago - Advice & Supportfoxnotes
dating my best friend and weirdly grieving the friendship?
we've been best friends for four years. finally dating. i want this. and also i keep having this quiet grief like i "lost" the friendship even though she's rig…
Started 1 month ago4 replies1,024 viewsLast reply 1 month ago - Advice & Supporttori_tries
dating women after years with men — why is everything so intense
late bloomer, 37. first relationship with a woman and i feel like i've been plugged into a wall socket. we talk about feelings. like, a lot. which is good! als…
Started 1 month ago5 replies1,568 viewsLast reply 1 month ago - Advice & SupportRemy
crushing on a taken friend — do i confess or just disappear for a bit
she's partnered. monogamous. i'm spinning. confessing feels selfish. staying close feels like picking a scab. leaning toward quiet distance. guilt anyway.
Started 1 month ago3 replies712 viewsLast reply 1 month ago - Advice & Supportsky.
took space after catching feelings for a friend — still feel guilty
told a close friend i liked her. she wanted to stay friends. then she got distant and weird and i realized i needed actual space to stop hoping. i said i'd rea…
Started 1 month ago4 replies543 viewsLast reply 1 month ago
