Sapphic Advice & Support
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- Advice & SupportAria
friend keeps saying sapphic and lesbian are the same and correcting me
i say sapphic. she "corrects" me to lesbian every time like she's helping. i'm pan. lesbian doesn't fit. how do i shut it down once without a friendship explos…
Started 2 months ago4 replies556 viewsLast reply 2 months ago - Advice & SupportKendra
online late bloomer groups saved me but i need people in my actual city
facebook groups and forums got me through the "am i actually gay or just bored" spiral. genuinely. now i want someone to get coffee with who already knows the…
Started 2 months ago4 replies521 viewsLast reply 2 months ago - Advice & SupportWilla
she asked about moving in after 5 weeks and i short-circuited
we're great. like genuinely. also she casually floated "what if we just… shared a place" after five weeks and my brain blue-screened. i know the u-haul joke ex…
Started 2 months ago5 replies896 viewsLast reply 2 months ago - Advice & Supporttori_tries
first date with a woman ever and i'm spiraling about being "new"
never dated women before. have a coffee date saturday. keep imagining she'll clock me as clueless and lose interest. do i say upfront that i'm newly dating wom…
Started 2 months ago3 replies736 viewsLast reply 2 months ago - Advice & Supportolive.jpg
crush on a friend and i cannot tell if she's flirting or just like that
we've been friends for about 8 months. lately she's cooking for me, leaning into my space, announcing she's single in front of her friends like it's a public s…
Started 2 months ago5 replies981 viewsLast reply 2 months ago - Advice & Supportfoxnotes
dating my best friend and weirdly grieving the friendship?
we've been best friends for four years. finally dating. i want this. and also i keep having this quiet grief like i "lost" the friendship even though she's rig…
Started 2 months ago4 replies1,025 viewsLast reply 2 months ago - Advice & SupportNoor
sister's wedding won't include my partner — do i still go
family has gotten "nicer" about me being gay in theory. in practice my partner of two years isn't invited to my sister's wedding because it would make some rel…
Started 2 months ago4 replies1,103 viewsLast reply 2 months ago - Advice & Supporttori_tries
dating women after years with men — why is everything so intense
late bloomer, 37. first relationship with a woman and i feel like i've been plugged into a wall socket. we talk about feelings. like, a lot. which is good! als…
Started 3 months ago5 replies1,569 viewsLast reply 2 months ago - Advice & SupportRemy
crushing on a taken friend — do i confess or just disappear for a bit
she's partnered. monogamous. i'm spinning. confessing feels selfish. staying close feels like picking a scab. leaning toward quiet distance. guilt anyway.
Started 2 months ago3 replies713 viewsLast reply 2 months ago - Advice & Supportsky.
took space after catching feelings for a friend — still feel guilty
told a close friend i liked her. she wanted to stay friends. then she got distant and weird and i realized i needed actual space to stop hoping. i said i'd rea…
Started 3 months ago4 replies544 viewsLast reply 2 months ago
