Fran
every late bloomer advice post says make queer friends first. i've been doing that for almost a year. book club, one hiking group, a couple dinners.
part of me wonders if i'm using "community" as a way to avoid the scary dating part. part of me knows i needed this.
how do you know when you're ready vs when you're hiding.
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Rowan
if the friendships feel real and not like homework, you're not stalling. when dating starts feeling curious instead of obligatory, that's usually the shift.
Mei
i dated too early and used partners as community. burned a couple people. your order is fine.
Sam
you can do both at low volume. one date a month isn't abandoning the friend-building.
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