Ines
i heard "stud" in a video and went to type it in a comment about a haircut, then stopped. i'd rather ask here than guess in public.
if it is, i don't want it in my mouth. if it isn't, i still might be the wrong person to say it. those feel like different problems and i keep mixing them up.
i'm not Black. i'm not going to try the word on and see if it fits. i want the rule from people who use it, not from a comments section.
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Aisha
not a slur. stud is what a lot of Black masc lesbians and sapphics call ourselves. some Latinx masc folks use it too. if you're white, leave it alone. say masc. say butch if that's yours. don't borrow stud for a fit check.
Dina
yeah. i use it for me. hearing it in a white person's caption about their new jeans is how it gets weird. the word's fine. the grabbing isn't.
Ines
got it. masc for the haircut comment. thanks for the plain version.
jess_writes
there's a shorter glossary entry too if you want it later. Aisha already said the part that matters.
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