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bi in sapphic spaces — when does it start feeling like i have to prove it

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Sloane
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Sloane

i'm bi, currently dating a woman, mostly hang in sapphic spaces. every so often someone makes a joke about "when you go back to men" and i laugh because conflict is exhausting, then i feel gross after.

not looking to start a war. looking for how other bi folks handle the low-grade stuff without becoming the group hall monitor.

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  • Iris

    Iris

    "lol i'm not going anywhere" said flat once usually ends it. if it doesn't, that person is showing you something.

  • kit.

    kit.

    you shouldn't have to prove permanence to belong. the people who get it won't need the performance.

  • Sloane

    Sloane

    yeah. i think i've been laughing to keep the peace and it's costing me

  • Aisha

    Aisha

    same. a short correction is enough. you don't need a thesis.

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