jo.
half the dating apps near me say "masc" or "soft masc" and i keep nodding like i get it.
is it just short for masculine presentation? does it mean they want a femme? does it mean butch? i feel like i'm failing a quiz.




jo.
half the dating apps near me say "masc" or "soft masc" and i keep nodding like i get it.
is it just short for masculine presentation? does it mean they want a femme? does it mean butch? i feel like i'm failing a quiz.
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Cass
mostly presentation shorthand. clothes, hair, vibe. not "i am a man." soft masc = masc-leaning without the sharpest version of it.
softbutch42
butch has more history and identity weight. masc is looser. i use soft butch for myself and get called masc anyway. whatever.
jo.
so if someone's bio says masc it doesn't automatically mean they're hunting for a femme?
Elena
correct. some mascs date mascs. some don't. bio labels are about how they want to be read, not a dating menu.
blake.
on gay mens apps masc can get weird and exclusionary. in sapphic spaces it's usually just "i dress like this."
jo.
ok. putting "still learning the slang" in my own bio so nobody expects me to know everything.
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