Lux
not looking for medical history dump advice. more like: do you mention energy limits / flare cancellations in the chat stage, or wait until someone asks why you suggested a short walk instead of dinner-and-a-movie.
i've had people ghost after i said "i might need to reschedule if my body freaks out." also had people act shocked when i cancelled day-of.
what actually works for you.
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Rowan
i put a soft line in my bio: "chronic illness, flexible plans appreciated." weeds out the worst before chat.
Quinn
before meeting, not during. "heads up i sometimes need last-minute swaps" is enough. details later if it goes somewhere.
Lux
bio line is clever. less emotional labour than explaining every match.
sky.
anyone who ghosts over flexibility was going to flake on care later anyway. annoying but useful filter.
Rhea
dating other chronically ill people has been easier for me. not required, just… less explaining.
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